Not everyone asks us, but we can see the question in many of their eyes when they look at our family...
Why did we chose to adopt when we have been able to have children biologically? Why did we chose to adopt form Africa? Do we think we are better or cooler people (enough of the Jolie-Pitt comments!) because we have adopted? Do we homeschool too? (I'm not kidding. I've absolutely been asked that a number of times.)
I touch on our reasons for adopting throughout this blog, but rather than send someone searching through all the posts to find them, I figured it would be helpful to just dedicate a page to it. So here goes...
In some ways, I feel as though I could simply say that we adopted because we felt as though that is what God wanted for us to do. That would be a true and all encompassing answer. But there are things within that, that God used to assure us that this was what was right for our family and so I wanted to share those with you.
We are all called to care for orphans. In some way or another, we are all called. For most, adoption will not be the way in which we answer that calling. But none of us is exempt and for us, bringing a child into our home so that he would never have to be labeled an orphan again, was just one of the ways we felt we were able to answer the call.
We could. We had all the resources we could possible need to open our home to another child. We had the space, the finances, the support, the LOVE...and as time has gone by, God has shown us that even in the things that we fall short, He has all the resources we could ever need to be parents to another one of His children.
We want a big family. We both come from families of five (two brothers a piece) and simply knew we wanted to have more children than that. We have been drawn to the beauty that comes from being in a larger family. The force of selflessness that comes from sharing life with so many others. The constant sharpening of one personality against another, making us deal with all of our personal crappiness while at the same time learning to love and care more deeply than we could have ever imagined. A house full of life...without me having to be pregnant each time!!
We wanted our children to have a view of the world that went beyond our suburban bubble. Both Anthony and I grew up quite sheltered and we are all too aware of how easy it would to raise our children that way too. But we want more for them than that. We want them to understand that their God is a big God over a big world and that there are things they should know...good and bad. There are other cultures with rich and beautiful traditions. There are people living in circumstances that are unimaginable to us and yet God is still there. I knew this growing up too, but it was a distant thing, and my "knowing" was more like an intangible piece of knowledge that never really engaged my heart. But for our children, well they have an intimate knowledge that comes from knowing that one of our own family members was abandoned and yet God saw him there. Ignoring the rest of the world is a lot tougher to do when it is sitting at your dinner table!
And lastly...we simply couldn't think of a really good reason not to.
Oh, and in case you were wondering, no, we do not think we are better or cooler. But we do feel as though adoption has seriously blessed the dorks in this house.
And no we do not homeschool. I love having a lot of kids, but that doesn't mean I don't enjoy the help that comes from sending them off to be taught by great men and women, while I get some laundry done in a quiet house.
Hope that answers your why?!