So, recently I joined a group on Facebook focused on issues surrounding transracial adoption, or adoption across race lines. The group is composed of adoptive parents like me, adult adoptees, birth mothers, and others whom have had transracial adoption touch their family.
And this group has been AMAZING.
Look, I certainly don't agree with everything that is posted on there, but I'm a huge fan of taking the time to listen to the viewpoints and experiences of others and what I have been learning has been so valuable. They have posted links to amazing articles on adoption and racism. I have been challenged to think more deeply about what it means to raise black children in our culture. I have had my eyes opened to some of the unique issues that adult adoptees have and what their struggles were as children.
I think as adoptive parents we often want to just lean on our love for our children and not deal with some of the difficult aspects of adoption. But I don't want to be like that. I don't want to create issues that aren't there, but I DO want to be sensitive to those that are there and be thoughtful and educated in how I respond to them. It is one of the ways that I love Nathan and am already able to love Lydia.
So, consider this a warning that I may have some new thoughts to share in this space. Because learning about adoption and race are a big part of our adoption journey…which is what this blog is all about.