It was about them being open to adding to their family through adoption and how a visit to an orphanage in China opened this idea up to them and their children. They talked about how they love kids and are open to whatever God has for them...
I think people love the idea of adoption. And those that have visited an orphanage are enamored with the idea of swooping one of those children up and being their mommy or daddy. They imagine themselves loving and being loved by a child that might never have known love otherwise. There is a romance to it all.
The thing about romances is that if they aren't grounded in some reality, they come crashing down. Some marriages end in divorce because the idea of the romance of it all looses footing. "Dream jobs" are left because they didn't turn out to be what was expected. Thousands of baby bunnies are bought every year at Easter, only to be abandoned or returned once the jelly bean high wears off.
But what do you do when the romance of adoption grows cold?
I've written before about how I strongly believe that not everyone should adopt. And I have to say that one of my number one reasons as to why someone should NOT adopt is if they just LOVE the idea of it. Because let me tell you, the romance is going to come crashing down.
I learned this within the first 24 hours of becoming Nate's mom. In truth, the whole process of adopting was incredibly difficult, but I held to the thought that at the end of all the papers and waiting, I would be holding my son and that would make it all worth while. Of course, if you have been following my blog for a while you'll remember from this post that those first 24 hours were heart wrenching. Everything I had held to during the process came crashing down. HARD.
But we hadn't entered the process because we loved kids and loved the idea of adoption. (Although we certainly did.) We truly had felt as though this is what God had for our family and let me tell you, I CLUNG to that conviction during those early struggles.
And that brings me back to the Duggars.
I don't doubt the fact that they are prayerful people. And maybe God will lead them towards adoption. But I hope that they are really thoughtful about what their unique situation adds to the issues that come with adoption. It is a little hard for me to imagine how a child would attach well in such a large biological family. And what I am realizing is that attachment is an issue, in some form, for any adopted child.
Let love stir your heart. Love for children. Love for causes. These are all beautiful things. But love is not enough. I wish it were, but the reality is that adoption asks a lot of us. I don't want this to be discouraging and I definitely wish that more people would adopt, but think it through and pray it through. You're going to need more than just love.