Tuesday, November 27, 2012

Five.

Yesterday Nate turned five.  Last night during prayers I prayed for his birth mom and dad.  I had to.  I had to acknowledge them.  I had to thank God for them.  I had to pray that they remember Nate and that that memory blesses them...


He still doesn't get it.  He knows things, but he doesn't seem to think about it at all.  But some day he will.  And I wonder how he will feel about my prayers.  And I wonder what prayers he may have of his own.

Friday, November 23, 2012

The Plan.

So here are the things that our kiddos are doing to raise money to send one of the NHH kiddos to school. Keep in mind that Anthony and I are not doing any of this, but are completely leaving it up to the kids.

1.  baking and selling our family's much loved Giant Ginger Cookies
2.  offering "babysitting" (aka: keeping your kid busy)
3.  yard work
4.  hand-knit scarves
5.  selling children's books to the Half-Priced Book Store

So far they have made an additional $50 from the cookies, so only $259 to go! Their goal is to be done by the end of the year. We are so proud of them.

Friday, November 16, 2012

Tis the Season.

We are starting to get in the holiday spirit in our house.  The Christmas tree is up (though not decorated) and there are a bunch of presents hidden in my closet (though not wrapped) and the spirit of giving is alive and well.


This year we have decided to have the kids participate in sending one of the kids from New Hope Homes to school...it was their idea. Anthony and I have committed to pay for half and the kids have to come up with the other half. That's $475 that they need to come up with.

Tonight we dumped out piggy banks and wallets and the kids each gave what they wanted to from their stashes. We didn't tell anyone what they should do, but just let each one decide what they wanted to give. So far they gave $166!

Tomorrow our plan is to have a little family meeting to brainstorm about how they can earn the rest of the money...I'll let you know what they come up with.

If any of you lovely people would like to support one of the New Hope Home kids, let me know! The costs for their schooling is either $1450, $950, or $780...depending on the grade level.

I love this season!

Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Adoption Awareness Month

November is National Adoption Awareness Month.

Here's the thing. People like to talk about celebrating adoption in the month of November, but I think that that is the wrong thing to do. I mean, I'm an adoptive mom and I am deeply thankful for how adoption has grown our family, but I wonder if adoption contains too much loss at the same time to use a word like "celebrate".

I just read an article by a birth mom about how much she hates November for this very reason, it is a month of loss for her and it hurts to have so many others celebrate it. She spoke of "honoring" adoption instead because you can honor a loss as well as a gain. And I agree.

So, as I have been thinking about Adoption Awareness, I began thinking about what exactly it is that we are supposed to be "aware" of. Here are just a few things (NOT STATISTICS) that I would like to raise awareness about this month...

-- Please understand that not everyone can or even should adopt, but everyone should proactively care about the millions of orphans throughout the world.  In fact, I think that some people can do more for the cause of orphans by not adopting.  Adoption takes a lot of energy and focus on a single child and some people are more equipped to reach out and affect many orphans' lives.  We have a dear friend named Donna who works tirelessly for the kids at New Hope Homes.  What she does is something that I can not with my family at home to care for and I am deeply thankful for all she does.  (Check out her blog on the right.)

-- Adoption is lonely, for the birth family, the adoptive family, and the child...sometimes really lonely.  Be aware of those around you that are in the process (from any side of it).  Check in with them and let them know that you remember that they have something significant going on in their life.  Trust me.  Having someone remember can really help with all of the waiting and struggles.  And there is a LOT of both waiting and struggling.

-- Words and terms matter, so be aware of the ones you use. Words like "own" and "natural" to describe only biological children are so so wrong. They may seem harmless but remember that these children will hear those words as they form their identity. Can you imagine growing up being told that you are not "natural" when all those around you are?

-- God is the same God for an orphan as He is for an adoptee or a biological child.  This is important to remember because people like to talk about how "lucky" adoptees are, but in truth, while they may have more and/or different opportunities, God has always been with them and was blessing their lives when they were orphans too.  Their life has always been valuable because God has always valued them.

I've debated even posting this because it feels so incomplete.  There is so much that people need to become aware of surrounding adoption.  I mean, truly this is just the tip of the iceberg.  So join the conversation...become aware!

Let me leave it with this.  Be thoughtful.  Don't jump on the adoption celebration bandwagon without thinking about ALL of those that have been affected by adoption.  Be thoughtful about the words that you use and how they reflect your true thoughts on adoption.  And be thoughtful about (and open to) how God is moving in your life and in the lives of others surrounding adoption and the care of orphans.