That's right, in just 29 days I will be on my way and I just can't wait!! There is so much that I could tell you about all the emotions that I am feeling about this trip, but I'll save that for another day. For now, I just wanted to tell you about this book that we have been reading to prepare for our trip.
It really has nothing to do with adoption per se, but I feel as though it is a great read for anyone and a truly amazing read for anyone that has adopted from or works with the poor throughout the world (including the US). It's called When Helping Hurts (pic of book cover below) and it has changed the way I think about the world. Truly incredible and a read that I am so thankful we have gone through together as a team before heading to Rwanda.
I could go on and on about this book, but more than anything I think it has made me really think about whether my "helping" is really for me or for those that I aim to help. Because I think that often times we don't take the time to really understand the core of what people are struggling with, that we just go for the quick and easy fix of giving them money or something. It makes us feel good and yet requires so little from us while at the same time often reinforcing their feelings of hopelessness and lack of self-esteem. To take the time to enter into their pain or problem, well, that's uncomfortable and can leave us feeling as though we weren't able to do anything and yet that time, that relationship, the empowering of who God has created them to be, is most likely exactly what they need...I know that as I have struggled with our church recently that that is exactly what I have craved, for them to stop trying to fix things but rather to do the messier but so much more lovely act of entering into a relationship with me...but I guess that is a whole other entry and not for here.
Anyway, so read the book. And if you truly want to help others, take the time to understand what they need...and I'll give you a hint, it is hardly ever just a check that you'll send in the mail and forget about as soon as it hits the mailbox. It is going to require more of you than that and will forever change your life for the better.