Friday, September 26, 2008

CHECK OFF TWO and last steps.

COMPLETE AND LEGAL...Nathan is officially ours. I got an email from our lawyer this morning letting us know that the decision is in and the adoption has been ruled complete. Praise God!

So, what's next? Well, we wait...I know, shocking. Kiki is unfortunately out of town all next week, and I don't have anyone else who can help me until she gets back. When she is back though...

Step three...Notaries. She gets all the papers notarized and then..

Step four...drops a copy off at the Minister of Gender and Family promotion to ask for our travel document (stating we are parents and not child traffickers) and to Immigration to start processing his Rwandan passport. At this point, we can buy our tickets to leave about two weeks later. Crazy!!

Can't believe how close we are finally getting...Nate turned 10 months today.

Wednesday, September 24, 2008


I was able to hunt down our lawyer's email address yesterday and emailed her last night. This morning there was an email from her saying that everything went well and we should hopefully know on Friday. So exciting!

Monday, September 22, 2008

Court and yesterday.

Well, hopefully court went well this morning. I've debated as to whether or not I should call our lawyer to make sure that it went okay. But after having to call about an issue with the birth certificate (she needed the original, not jut a copy) and having so much trouble understanding each other...I don't know. Maybe I'll make Anthony call. = ) I promise to update if we do find something out.

Yesterday was a crazy day. Anthony and I were asked to speak briefly in front of the church about our adoption. It was so emotional to say the least. We had to walk up there with a picture of Nate on the was tough, but such an honor. And people were so encouraging to us afterwards. There have been times when this process has felt so lonely and it was so nice to have people encouraging us the way they did yesterday. I think we are going to the Olathe campus next week to do it for their services...

Yesterday was also the day of the shower that my dear frieds, Jeni and Leslie, threw for me. It was so fun to have so many of my girlfriends together and they were so generous in providing us with some blue things for our house! A handful also donated some money to New Hope Homes, which was just so amazing. The homes need so much and fundraising can be tough to do. I was really touched by those who gave so generously.

Friday, September 12, 2008

Court date.

So...true to form, each piece of news we receive seems to push things back a bit.

Our court date is set for September 22nd. The ruling should take 1-2 weeks (let's hope not any longer than that!), so when Kiki gets back from her trip she will take things to be notarized and hand them over to Immigration (passport) and the Minister of Gender and Family Promotion (travel document). Hopefully she will be able to get this all done by October 10th. The passport is supposed to take 10 business days to be, right now we are looking at going the weekend of October 25th.

I'm a bit teary today. Nathan will be about 11 months when I get there, if we are even able to go by then. It's just really tough. I'm sure that once we have him here, we will be able to look past these weeks that we are missing with him, but right just breaks my heart.

Here are a few more pictures that Kiki took of him the other day. The woman holding him is one of the mamas at New Hope Homes. I like that one because it gives a better idea of his size. I just can't wait to have of picture of me holding him.

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

Step Two update.

Tomorrow Kiki meets with our lawyer. The hope is that they can get a court date set in just a few days. Keep praying. We have also heard that for another adoption that was ruled on in that particular court, the actual ruling didn't come down for 2-3 weeks after the court date. This would also set us back weeks. Please pray that things go much quicker than anticipated. I'm just so ready to get out there.

Pictures and cuddle time!

Kiki took Nate to the doctor today. She said that he is 18.3 lbs, can sit okay, but doesn't crawl or stand yet. She said he was quiet, not really even making a peep when they drew blood. He has a cough and she got a prescription filled for him. The main reason we wanted her to take him to the doctor was that that was the only way she could spend any time with him and I have desperately needed to have her cuddle him for me and tell him that we are coming.

My favorite thing that she wrote (read, that which made me cry the most) was...

At one point while we were waiting, I was standing and cuddling him, singing him "Jesus loves you" and telling him about his mom and dad, and how much you love him. He fell asleep. He's so sweet.

And now for some pictures. Notice the missing "crazy" hair...oh, how I wish that I could hold him!

Tuesday, September 9, 2008

Step Two

Court. So, here is what I am hearing. Right now, Kiki is looking for a lawyer for us to use for the court work. The lawyer will then set a date to go before the court. When this will be depends a lot on the district that the court we need to use is in. This is where we are in major need of prayer...the court date could be next week or next month. Please please pray that we quickly find a lawyer and get a date set soon. Kiki leaves next Thursday, so our time is running out before things will get pushed back into late October.

The other thing you can be praying for is Kiki's health. She's felt awful today and not only do I need her healthy to get the legal stuff done, but she is planning to pick Nate up tomorrow to take him to the doctor to have some medical reports made, which obviously she can't do if she is sick. I'm in such need for her to hold him...I can't even begin to explain it to you. So, please pray for her.

I'll update again when we know more about the court, get a lawyer and a court date set. So, hopefully soon.

Monday, September 8, 2008

CHECK OFF ONE and Step Two

Finally, we can actually check something off the list! I heard from Kiki this morning and she has our Act of Adoption in her hand. I can't even begin to tell you how good that makes us feel. We'll take our moment to celebrate that, but in reality it is right on to the next step.

Step Two: Court. I'll know a little bit more about this step tomorrow after Kiki meets with a friend who has helped with a number of adoptions in Rwanda. From what I remember though, this is where we hire a lawyer and Kiki goes before the judge who will rule our adoption as complete and legal. I think that those two words are my favorite words right now. How sweet will that be when our adoption of Nate is complete and legal.

I'll keep you posted...praise God for good news today!

Friday, September 5, 2008


Okay, so I can't quite check this first step off the list, but we are so close. Kiki was able to get everything signed and paid for on our end of things (including a needed signature from one of the mamas at Nate's house), but, of course, the one guy that needed to sign and stamp the document to make it all official had already left without doing so. So, she is going back on Monday to get that done. So, almost...

The good news was that Chantal's signature wasn't needed, so we are able to continue the process without her being there. This has been our biggest concern because if it was needed then we were going to have to wait until she got back mid-October before we could move forward in the process. As is, we are moving right on "schedule" and things are looking promising. Keep praying though.

I'll update things again when I know what the next step will look like.

Thursday, September 4, 2008


Let's just say that when I saw that the subject of Kiki's email was "a typical day in Rwanda" I knew we were in trouble...

Long story short, she was able to get the documents she needed from New Hope Homes, but after being sent from one government office to another, with one guy writing an "official" letter and the next guy throwing it out, she finally got to the right office (which incidentally was the first office she had gone to to begin with). There she found out that there was some valuable and very big book with big pages that she needs to take with an escort to a certain copy place 20 minutes from that office that makes big copies...tomorrow morning.

So, hopefully tomorrow this will get finished. There still is a little concern that there will need to be a signature from Chantal...please pray that this will not be an issue.

Oh, the one fun thing that she was able to share with us though, is that Nate's birthday is November 26th, 2007. I can't even begin to tell you how that makes us feel to know that little fact.

Wednesday, September 3, 2008

Take Two.

None of the paperwork seems to be where it is supposed to be, so Kiki wasn't able to even go to the office today.

Not a good first step...we're praying that tomorrow will go better.

Monday, September 1, 2008

Legwork: Step One

Okay, so here we go...

Wednesday it begins. Our paperwork is in Rwanda (so says my tracking on and hopefully Nate's paperwork was left ready for Kiki to pick up at one of New Hope's homes. Our plan is for Kiki to go with all the paperwork on Wednesday to the district office and complete the "Act of Adoption". Here are our prayer requests reguarding it...

1. That Kiki is able to get all the paperwork together.
2. That she is able to easily find the right office.
3. That there will be someone there who can speak English since Kiki's Kinyarwanda isn't great.
4. That there won't be any issues with Kiki going on her own (rather than having Chantal there with her).

Okay, I think that is it. Rwanda is about 7 hours ahead of us, so hopefully I will have some news to report by Wednesday afternoon.

I'm insanely excited and nervous. I'm trusting that God's hand continues to be on all of this. Thank you for your thoughts and prayers. Hopefully my next update will be to check off Step One!

Oh, you may have noticed that there is no mention of the doctor's appointment (and therefore no new pics), this is mostly because we were told the appointment isn't necessary and while we still hope to fit it in, we are working on getting the must do's done first.